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We are not able to change what happens to us, but we can change how we view it. Change Your Perspective, Change Your Life! is a collection of reflections focused on many of the life issues we all face. Each of the offerings is meant to inspire you, and help you see how you might make a positive difference in your own life.

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Making An Emotional First Aid Kit

Yesterday, I did a Facebook Live (the link is posted below) where I talked about the importance of making an emotional first aid kit for yourself. We can do almost anything for a short period of time, however, when the time gets extended, it can become much harder to maintain our own well-being and keep a positive attitude. Collectively we are all trying to figure out how to navigate this new normal.

I have been asking people what they need hear right now and several people said they were afraid they might find themselves feeling overwhelmed, sad and discouraged, not able to stay positive during this.

Those are all normal feelings to have but it will not be helpful for us to dwell on them. I believe that rather than being fearful that this may happen and we won’t know how to get out of it, I think it is better to just plan that sometime this might happen, it’s normal and yes, we can have a plan to get out of it.  Living in fear does not help us to use the wisdom we all have.

  • Changing your thinking from “what if this happens”  to “chances are good that sometime during this time I will find myself struggling” is a mind shift that moves you from a reactive frame of mind to a proactive one.
  • When you are reactive, you are in fear and cannot use the wisdom you already have. However, when you are feeling emotionally strong and positive, you are in a good place to make a plan that you can use if you feel you are struggling.
  • We have a First Aid kit at our house because we know that accidents happens and we want to be prepared when they do. This is the same concept we can use to boost our own mental health.

I suggest that you make your own mental Health First aid kit. For example, my granddaughter can get over excited or overwhelmed. She is being taught how to manage her own emotions by having a calming corner. Sometimes she needs to be reminded that she needs to use it and other times she knows she needs it. In her special place she has activities that will help her identify what she is feeling and move past it. It is very effective and she is learning a life skill.

Here are ideas for your Emotional First Aid kit.

  1. Write down bullet points or a paragraph about how resilient you are? List the attributes you possess or reflect on what has helped you in the past?  Write this out now when you are feeling strong so you can re-read it when you need too.
  2. Be aware that the fastest and easiest way to change your mental state is to move your body. When you are upset you almost fold into yourself with your body posture…get up and move around or go for a walk and then address the issue. This will help calm the emotion so you can see with a clearer mind.
  3. Who can you call or talk to that can help you find a different perspective? Pick someone who can help you regain your positive mind set.
  4. Make a list of the things that help you self-soothe like take a walk, bath, coloring, or listening to music. etc.

I hope that what I offered today will help you in some way. Here is the link to my to my Facebook Live:

https://www.facebook.com/sandythibaultlifecoaching/videos/216532089425879/

Thank you for tuning in and stay well.

Sandy

Thriving Instead of Surviving

As we settle into a new normal, things might continue as they are for longer than any of us thought. With the idea of this being long term, rather than short term, I have begun to ask myself, how can I not only survive this, but thrive so I can be better than I am now.

There are some things I know for sure and that is that each one of us is stronger than we remember that we are. We are courageous, resourceful and creative to name a few. In our busyness we have forgotten how resilient we really are and at times like this, we must call on our inner strength. Plain and simple, it is to our advantage to take control of our thoughts and actions for the benefit of ourselves and others.

With that in mind, I’m offering some thoughts for all of us to consider.

When we have feelings of security, comfort, and safety we feel good and our brain reacts accordingly sending out good vibes, telling our mind and body that all is well. We feel positive about life and optimistic about our future.

When our need for safety, comfort, and protection is threatened, as it is now with this virus, we move into a flight or fight mode. We know that this state of being causes our brain to release chemicals that are harmful to us, adding even more stress and negative thinking. It is much harder to feel optimistic, and hopeful, with the knowledge that in the end, everything will be okay. When we feel threatened, we need to be reminded of what we already know.

When we are not able to change or control the circumstances, what can we do?

We can focus on what we can control. Make a list of the things you can control such as your attitude, how you care for yourself and others, and how can you be of service to others?

When you take control of the things within your grasp, you become in charge of your own well-being, no matter what is happening. That is the definition of peace, peace is not the absence of chaos, it is the calm in the middle of what is happening around you.

Pay Attention to negative thinking. Negative thinking focuses all our thoughts and energy inward, which in turn creates a small and narrow focus. Resist the temptation to dramatize the details out of proportion and look at them in the bigger context of your life. Become aware of your negative thoughts and do your best to change them into a more life- giving statement.

In conclusion…

I have more to offer but I want to keep it short for now as people get overwhelmed with so much information coming at them. With that said, I would like you to tell me what you would like to hear from me? How can I be of service to you right now?  You can just reply to this message to respond.

As always, I offer a “no fee” (As always, this is a no strings attached offer) phone session. If you would like to talk more about anything I have said or would like me to help you brainstorm or make a strategy, I am more than happy to do that. Reply to this email and we will set up a phone conversation.

Take good care of yourself!

Sandy

 

 

Exploring Your Life

As many of you know, my husband and I spend 8 weeks in Cocoa Beach, Florida. It is lovely to be so close to the ocean, besides getting us out of the cold, it also disrupts the normal routine of daily living for quite a while. You might think that going to the beach might ever get old, but you do need more than the beach to fill your time. In fact, if you really want to see what this artsy town and the area has to offer, you must go exploring.

We have attended lectures on subjects we never would have considered at home, I have taken a painting class, given Mandala stone painting classes, learned about the space program, seen the Ponce Lighthouse and explored many nooks and crannies of this great area. In essence we expanded our horizons but trying out things that were new and different for us.

I have meet some fun people teaching my class and the idea of trying new things or making changes can be very difficult. They admitted that trying out my painting class was hard for them, but they did it anyway. That is how the conversation on change began. Drinking my coffee, looking at the ocean, I was reflecting on these conversations and felt the sadness at that the bigger changes they wanted  to make, they felt were out of their grasp. There is so much sadness that goes with being unable to do the thing you want to do.

What if we could explore a change before we make it?  I began to talk to them about the idea of exploring the change they wanted to make, try it on for size, just to see how it works, before committing to it. All of a sudden the fear went away, and there was excitement in their faces.

We all fear letting go of what is comfortable and familiar, even if it no longer works for us. The first step can be beginning to imagine the change by exploring how it feels to make the change.  This exercise will help to open one’s mind to a small step that can be tried out for a few hours or a day to see how it might work. Once you realize that you really can do it,you will want to continue taking these steps forward.

Exploring a new way to be must begin in your mind with a mindset of curiosity and wonder about what you will find. It is this exploration of a new way to act or think that leads to a fuller and more satisfying life.

Remember, have fun exploring new ways to be and to think!

 

No Fee conversation about change