Yesterday, I did a Facebook Live (the link is posted below) where I talked about the importance of making an emotional first aid kit for yourself. We can do almost anything for a short period of time, however, when the time gets extended, it can become much harder to maintain our own well-being and keep a positive attitude. Collectively we are all trying to figure out how to navigate this new normal.
I have been asking people what they need hear right now and several people said they were afraid they might find themselves feeling overwhelmed, sad and discouraged, not able to stay positive during this.
Those are all normal feelings to have but it will not be helpful for us to dwell on them. I believe that rather than being fearful that this may happen and we won’t know how to get out of it, I think it is better to just plan that sometime this might happen, it’s normal and yes, we can have a plan to get out of it. Living in fear does not help us to use the wisdom we all have.
- Changing your thinking from “what if this happens” to “chances are good that sometime during this time I will find myself struggling” is a mind shift that moves you from a reactive frame of mind to a proactive one.
- When you are reactive, you are in fear and cannot use the wisdom you already have. However, when you are feeling emotionally strong and positive, you are in a good place to make a plan that you can use if you feel you are struggling.
- We have a First Aid kit at our house because we know that accidents happens and we want to be prepared when they do. This is the same concept we can use to boost our own mental health.
I suggest that you make your own mental Health First aid kit. For example, my granddaughter can get over excited or overwhelmed. She is being taught how to manage her own emotions by having a calming corner. Sometimes she needs to be reminded that she needs to use it and other times she knows she needs it. In her special place she has activities that will help her identify what she is feeling and move past it. It is very effective and she is learning a life skill.
Here are ideas for your Emotional First Aid kit.
- Write down bullet points or a paragraph about how resilient you are? List the attributes you possess or reflect on what has helped you in the past? Write this out now when you are feeling strong so you can re-read it when you need too.
- Be aware that the fastest and easiest way to change your mental state is to move your body. When you are upset you almost fold into yourself with your body posture…get up and move around or go for a walk and then address the issue. This will help calm the emotion so you can see with a clearer mind.
- Who can you call or talk to that can help you find a different perspective? Pick someone who can help you regain your positive mind set.
- Make a list of the things that help you self-soothe like take a walk, bath, coloring, or listening to music. etc.
I hope that what I offered today will help you in some way. Here is the link to my to my Facebook Live:
Thank you for tuning in and stay well.