Simple, Profound Wisdom

Every day we make thousands of decisions, some big and some small. Then there are some that need to be made and yet we sit on them, analyze the pro’s and con’s to death and never really make the decision. Maybe fear takes over or we are not confident in our ability to do it. Whatever it is, we stay stuck.

This past summer my granddaughter came for a visit and she taught me a simple, but yet profound piece of wisdom.  I took her to the amusement park at MOA to ride the approved rides, basically nothing that turned her upside down or was a roller coaster. However, the minute we walked in she spotted the roller coaster and wanted to ride it.  I explained that she would not like it and that her parents had told me she was scared to death of these rides. Doing my best to discourage her but nothing worked, as  she was determined to ride it.  After a careful assessment that she would be OK, I decided to let her try. Long story short, she came off that ride beaming from ear to ear, so proud of herself for doing. She rode another 3 times!

On the way home we talked about how she overcame her fear and how courageous she was for doing something that scared her. Then I asked her why she decided to ride it and she simply replied, “I just decided it was time and I did not want to be scared any more”. My jaw dropped at her wisdom and I wondered how many times fear kept me from making a decision.

I figure that if my granddaughter can overcome her fear just by deciding to do so, then I can too! How about you? Are you willing to make a decision that scares you?

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Are You Being True to Yourself?

Those of you who know me, know I love my morning reflective time. This year I have the added benefit of reflecting on my life while watching a sunrise over the ocean.

This particular morning I was reflecting on my new book, Change Your Perspective, Change Your Life, and the reasons I wrote it. I know what it is to live a pretend life, I did it longer than I care to admit. It was not that I wanted to be phony, I just did not know how to face my doubts and fears and still fit into the world around me. Everyone looked like that knew how to navigate life, except me, so I pretended to be happy and have my life together, while I was dying inside. When a friend challenged me to make changes, the charade was over.

That is how my journey began. Once I started looking at my negative thoughts and limiting beliefs a whole new world opened up to me. When I realized how long I had lived like this and how good it felt, I wanted to help others do the same. Was I scared, of course, but the confidence far outweighed the fear.

That is why I tell my story as honestly as I can, became a Life Coach and wrote my latest book. If you have questions or just want to talk to me, just reply to this email. I promise I won’t bite and it won’t coast you a penny.

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What You Do Everyday Matters!

I know that what we each do every single moment of our lives matters, and yet I know how hard it can be to have our actions be in alignment with this belief. We easily fall into the habit of doing the same old things, but somehow expecting different results. Simply put, change requires intentional and consistent action on our part.

That is why what we do everyday toward what we want for our life is so important. Reaching for what we want is a series of small steps we take each day and is more important than what we do once in a while. If you want to make a change in some area of your life you need a path and plan. What is yours for this new year?

Is a free Discovery Call with me in your future? If so please reply to this email and we can set up a 30 phone call.

Building Your Inner Strength

Building inner strength helps us navigate life in a way that gives us more confidence and trust in our own inner voice.

I have done 6 video’s that give a brief introduction into what is meant by each of the following strategies that will help move you from a negative mindset to a positive one.

Inner strength is our capacity to change the relationship to whatever has happened or is happening in our life and keep taking one more step toward what we want most.

These can be viewed on my Facebook page. Click here to visit my page.

If you are not on Facebook reply to this email and I will send a link to you.

Sunday, 11-18-18 –  Developing a Worthiness Mindset

Sunday, 11-25-18 –  Honoring Your Story & Wisdom

Sunday, 12-02-18 –  Choosing to Move Forward

Sunday,12-09-18 –   Perspective is an Essential Life Skill

Sunday, 12-16-18 –  Pay Attention to Negative Thinking

Sunday, 12-23-18 – Imagine the Best Story for Your life

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The Gift of a Book!

Hi Everyone…I hope you are all doing well!

With the holidays approaching I wanted to share my belief that signed books make the best gifts – way more meaningful than scented candles or tea towels.  So, if you would like to purchase signed copies of Change Your Perspective, Change Your Life – 52 Inspiring ways for YOU to take action just reply to this email. The book is $15.00 plus $3 for shipping and I will invoice you to pay online. Let me know who you are buying for so I can personalize the book.

As you make your holiday list think about teachers, book club friends, sisters and most of all the girlfriends you can’t live without.

All the best to you!

Sandy

P.S. Change Your Perspective, Change Your Life – 52 Inspiring ways for YOU to take action is being considered for the Best Book Award. I will know mid-November if I am a finalist, or better yet, win best book.

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Do You Wonder if You Can Make a Difference?

Like many of you, I watch or listen to the news, I grumble to myself and sometimes others about how bad things are, and always feel sad about the state of our world. Every day we hear news of public figures accused of wrong doing, we hear of shooting in public places and when we think we have seen and heard it all, we hear news that is more disturbing than the last report.

This came home to me again this morning when I learned that the hospital that my son works at was dealing with someone who said he had a gun and the Emergency Room was put on lock down. It ended with the man being shot as he reached for his gun. I wish this was unusual but it is not the first time his hospital was part of the news. It was not that long ago that they treated those involved in the Pulse shooting in Orlando. Sadly, it is beginning to feel commonplace.

In the coaching world we often say that if you want to take the emotional pulse of the people, all you have to do is look at the things that are happening in our world. I’m not alone when I wonder what it is that I can do to make this situation better. It does not matter what your spiritual practice is or even if you don’t have one, you can make a difference with every thought you think, every word you speak and every choice you make. What we think, say and do either helps our world or feeds the fear and uncertainty that people are feeling. On a daily basis, this is easier said than done; sometimes we need some ways to actually put this into practice.

Here are a few ideas from my book: Change Your Perspective, Change Your Life – 52 Inspiring ways for YOU to take action

Kindness: Check in with your thoughts, are they kind even to the people and situations you don’t like? Can you be kind to the person in front of you who is being rude and judgmental? Our intention is not to be unkind, tell a lie, or give our unsolicited opinion, but sometimes, for many varied reasons, we just do. Perhaps if we could slow down to think before we act, it would greatly change how we respond to others. Perhaps, the best gift you can give yourself and others is to not judge them based on their current behavior.

Practice Forgiveness: It is easy to forgive others for small grievances, but much harder to forgive the bigger hurts and betrayals. If we are in the practice of forgiveness, we have the mindset that helps to seek understanding and opens the perspective to see an issue from another point of view. It is about being unwilling to hang on to the anger, and seeking peace.

Seek Understanding: All too often we are married to our ideas and opinions, and will voice them at every opportunity. At times we talk over others to be heard, and pay little attention to the impact our opinions make. If we can take a step back and listen with the intention to understand, we might find we are more alike than different.

Practice Compassion: It is easy for us to offer compassion to those whom we feel deserve it, but what about the people that we deem not worthy of it? God offers even those who are accused of the worst crimes compassion, who are we to judge who is worthy and who is not? Not knowing what the other has been through or is going through, what is the most generous story you can tell yourself and others about the situation?

Release Anger: Refuse to hold on to anger and hate. Sometimes we don’t even realize how much anger and hate we are hanging on to until it comes out in our words and actions. When our words and actions show anger or hate, remember that is what we are teaching others.

Take Responsibility: What if we could take responsibility for what we think and how we act? How do you think that would affect our personal and professional relationships? I think it would heal a lot of hurt, and diffuse much anger.

To live peacefully with ourselves and others, we must have alignment between our head and heart. When we understand that our words and actions have power, we can then chose to replace out negative with positive. Taking responsibility for our life is what each and every one of us can do to change the world around us. 

Take care,

Sandy

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Hello September!

Our Ability to transform what we are given is our greatest skill and most treasured asset. -Sandy Thibault

Whether you have kids going back to school or not, the beginning of September is the beginning of different routines; many view it as a new beginning, maybe that is why it is called Self-Improvement month. I happen to love September but I also love to start fresh, to find better ways to do things and foster new perspectives that will allow me to navigate life in a way that makes be not only happier but more at ease.

I know one thing for sure, and that is we all have obstacles in our way that determines how we live life and how satisfied we are doing it. What we have in common, is that we would like to navigate our life struggles easier, have relationships that are not strained and that things can be drama free.

I know that this may sound hard, but not if we take it one step at a time. What we believe, what we think and how we act toward something negative can be changed if we take it one step at a time. A good place to begin is by asking yourself this question>

If you could overcome or make a significant difference to overcome one obstacle, what would that do for your confidence?

I promise you it will be worth your time to consider this questions!

Change Your Perspective, Change Your Life -52 Inspiring ways for YOU to take action is available now. If you can make it to the book signing but would like a copy just send me an email and I will send you an invoice you can pay on line and I will send you a autographed copy. The book is $15 and $3 shipping.

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Book Launch Celebration!

Change Your Perspective Change Your Life – 52 Inspiring ways for YOU to take action, has been a labor of love for me and I am pleased to let you know that is is completed. Each of the offerings in the book is meant to inspire, and help you see how you might make a positive difference in your own life. This is an invitation to YOU to come and help celebrate, I hope you can join us.

Book launch and signing will be:

Monday, September 24 from 5:30 – 7:30 PM

Jo Jo’s Rise and Wine Meeting Room – 12501 Nicollet Ave. – Burnsville, MN 55378

Can’t attend but want a book? No worries! Respond to this email with the following information:

  • Name and address where you want the book mailed (U.S. only)
  • How many books you would like. Each book is: $15 and $3 each for mailing
  • Let me know if you would like to mail me a check or if you would like me to email you an invoice that you can pay online
  • After payment is complete, I will let you know when your autographed copy is sent.

The book will also be available on Amazon in both a paperback and kindle version by 9-15-18

Sneak Peek…

I am getting very excited about my new book that I have been working on all summer. In the next few weeks I will be announcing the name and let you get a peek at the cover. Until then I wanted to share an excerpt from the book. I would love to hear your thoughts…just hit reply. Thank you so much!

Everything You Need–You Already Have!

“I want you to get excited about who you are, what you are, what you have, and what can still be for you.  I want to inspire you to see that you can go far beyond where you are right now.”

Virginia Satir

I remember that my grandmother Selma had high standards for herself and others, and believed in me more than I believed in myself. One day in a conversation, when I must have been particularity down on myself, she said to me: “I can’t be the only one who believes in you. You have to do your part, too!”

This was my first introduction into knowing that I had the ability to affect the outcome of my life, and I could do it by changing my thinking and my attitude. I knew it was not about wishing things were different, but that no matter what came my way, and a lot did, I had what I needed inside me to navigate life—and so do you!

I have the ability to affect the outcome of my life.

Inspired Action:

  • Make a list of your positive qualities.
  • Choose one or two and begin to incorporate them into your life on a regular basis.
  • Which of these qualities will help you move from negative thinking to positive thinking?

Based on my new perspective:

  1. What nugget of inspiration will I carry into my day?
  2. What is one thing I am committed to changing?
  3. What are the action steps I will take to make the change?

 

 

Finding the Compass that is Within You

I have been on a continual journey of discernment about my own life and my work, as well as helping my clients do the same thing. While everyone has different circumstances to consider, the question remains for the same as I believe it is at the heart of the spiritual quest. In all aspects of my life, what really matters, what brings me joy and what brings me into the fullest expression of who I am?

This is a powerful question for sure but sometimes the work to explore deeper is hard. In the last 5 years I have had my share of very difficult life situations, health concerns and closing a business that was my dream. As many of us do, I would have liked to pretend to have blinders on or struggle against it rather than to face what was in front of me. It took me a long time, but when I finally stopped fighting what was happening in my life, I began to embrace a new idea; what if I did not have to fight it?

I had a major ankle surgery 9 months before my son’s out of state wedding, thinking I had allowed more than enough time for it to heal. It would mean not being able to put weight on it for 3 months, at the longest before starting physical therapy. Soon that time went from 3 months to 6 months and I was getting weaker by the day not able to do normal activities. I became depressed, anxious and got angry that this was happening. I was looking forward to be escorted down the aisle by my son at his wedding, but at month eight, and one month before the wedding, I still could not walk.  I decided that all this energy was taking away from being resourceful in finding a solution and finding a way to enjoy the wedding. I stopped the fight and took Inspired Action to come up with a creative way to work with what I had.

 

When difficult things happen, our first reaction is to fight back to defend or protect ourselves from what we perceive as a threat. Without even noticing we are doing it, we end up staying in the fight until we are too tired to continue or we just can’t do it anymore. When I decided to stop the fight. I realized that the very things that were hard and difficult, were really here to help me. It seemed like a radical thought to lay down my guns when I could not see a path forward than the one laid out for me.  However, I learned from going from victim to empowering myself, created an opening in my life circumstances where I could begin to ask questions. And for me that question was, what really matters?

The truth is, we are all players in our own lives and we live it according to what we value and believe.

Once we know what this is, we can begin to check it against the things that we do and say. But because we are all human and get off our center, our words and actions are not always in alignment. Sometimes we let the opinions of others have more value than our own, or we let our own fear scare us away.

To find what really matters we have to begin the search beyond the usual answers. We need to be able to challenge what we value and believe, to discover if it is based on our truth or someone else’s.  At your center is the place of heart or God that is within you. It is the place where who you are meets the outside world. It is also the place of wisdom that if you listen you can begin to discern what really matters to you. Once you have discovered it will act like the center point of the compass pointing the way to a more authentic life.

Blessings in your journey!

This was first published in the Savage Pacer on 7-14-18