Taking A Break

Sometimes it is necessary to put some things on hold in an effort to make progress in other areas ,so I had to make a hard decision. I have decided I will be taking a summer break from the weekly inspirational emails I send out. Don’t worry, you will still be receiving them, but every two to three weeks instead of weekly.

I’m doing this because I have two book projects that I am working on and hopefully they will done by summers end. One book is called, It’s Your Life, Make It Extraordinary and the other is a collection of the inspirational reflections that I have been doing for the last 15 years. I am very appreciative for all of you reading and supporting my blog.

I would love your feedback on several things which you can do by replying to this email.

  • If you have enjoyed these emails and would like to write a testimonial about how they have helped you, I would appreciate that.
  • Also if there is anything you want included in either book please let me know.

In the meantime, if you are needing more inspirations you can read more here  

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Happy Memorial Day and have a great holiday!

Sandy

 

 

 

Fast and Easy Self-Care Rituals

Move Your Body: When you feeling down or stuck in a negative mood, the quickest way to make a change is to get up and move. Go for a short walk outside if possible or walk around the building. This movement helps to change the state of your mind and of your body. Think about as you walk you are moving forward and embrace a mindset that allows the negative thoughts to move you out of the mood you are in.

Dress better than you feel: If you have a hard day ahead of you or you are feeling less than awesome, it helps to wear something that is comfortable and you feel good in.

Use the “even though” principal: Often when we are afraid or not feeling confident in something we want to do, this fear or negative thinking will stop us from doing it. In this principle you to acknowledge and honor how you are feeling about something you want to do and move forward anyway.  For example: Even though I am afraid I can’t do it good enough,  I will do it anyway. This is a powerful way to recognize that we can have control over what we think and move into a more powerful way of being.

Breathe: When we get anxious we often breather shallow without even realizing it. Take several deep breathes from the belly and blow out slowly. Do this several times until you can feel your body let go.

Stop and Pause: When we are in a situation that leaves us mad or upset, instead of lashing out or doing something we might regret later, STOP and take a PAUSE to reflect on how you might want to handle the situation. Everyone can identify what it feels like when you get triggered and responding from this place does not allow you to be proactive in the situation. I can assure you that if at that moment you can create this PAUSE you will craft a better response that actually help you rather than hinder you.

Put your best foot forward: Pay attention to your negative thinking and do everything in your power to reframe these thought into something positive.  When you are able to monitor your thoughts and make them positive you are actually making the decide to feel better.

If you find that you could use some help with this please give me a call. I offer a “no fee” half hour phone coaching call.

I would love to hear from you. Email me here.

Have a great day!

 

When Was The Last Time You Felt Like A Million Dollars?

I am hoping you will say a lot, but I fear that you might not remember when the last time was. For many of us, we were taught from an early age how to be, and it was usually proper and reserved.

So this part of ourselves is buried way down inside and we may even fear it is gone altogether, but I assure you it is not. Sometimes it just takes a little excavation and the mindset that you will give herself permission to find it and revel in it.

I often talk to clients about what makes them feel special or like a million dollars as a way to help them get in touch with those parts we keep hidden. The picture above is the result of asking just that question. It worked…she reported feeling million dollars in those red stilettos!

Red stilettos are not for everyone, but finding this part of you is! I am often heard saying…everyone needs a pair of red shoes but it does not need to be one thing in particular, it just needs to be getting in touch regularly with brings you sheer delight, whether it is red stilettos or something else.

I hope you go for it….dig down deep and find what it is that makes you feel like a million dollars!

The “Chicken” In Me!

This is part of a story that was published a few months ago in a book of Anthologies called, Watershed Moments, compiled by Kathryn M Holmes. It is a book of dramatic stories from people experiencing faith based changes in their life. I was asked if I would be willing to contribute two stories and here is the first one of those stories. 

As you read it, I hope it will prompt you to think about your own life and the experiences that have changed your perspective. If you would like to share, I would love to hear, and you can just reply to this email.  Enjoy!

Who knew that a chicken, a real live one, would prove to be a pivotal moment in my life? Of course there is more than simply the chicken, so the story goes like this…

The Minneapolis/St. Paul area synod and the Iringa Diocese of Tanzania, along with many other churches, are part of a internship called Bega Kwa Bega. This is Swahili for “Shoulder to Shoulder,” which is the basis for our working together; we work side by side. Our church had a partnership with this program for many years, and felt strongly that to have this kind of relationship it meant we had to visit Tanzania.

I was sitting in a pew listening to three women speak who had recently came back from their first-ever trip to visit this remote village. I knew in an instant that I would be on that next trip. Becasue my husband could see I knew that in every part of my body, he leaned over and said, ” You are going, and there is nothing I can do to stop you, right?” Yes, indeed, I was going even if I could not articulate why.

Here is where it gets interesting. I had never been out of the U.S. I’m not an adventurer. I don’t like to be out of my comfort zone. Now I’m going to a third-world country for three weeks? Oh, did I mention I did not have the money, and my family was not thrilled with this idea?

I sat around a table with eight others, who were also interested in going the next year, in order to hear the details of what this experience would be like. We heard about the roads we would travel on, the remoteness  of the village, the bathroom facilities or lack thereof, and what everyday like would be like once we got there. All if a sudden it sank in, and I got really frightened. As I voiced my concern, and admitted that I did not know if I could manage it, a good friend pit his thumbs under his arm pits and started to squawk like a chicken. I was horrified. My friend had confronted me on my fear – and in hindsight I am glad he did.

What would happen if we never get out of our comfort zones? Thank you, dear friend. My hope is we all have people who will do this for us.

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Grace: A Healing Balm

 “Salvation happens every time someone with a key uses it to open a door he could lock instead.” – Barbara Brown Taylor

We each hold the key, and the door she is talking about is the door to our hearts. Salvation is the grace that we extend to ourselves and others in the process of opening ourselves to what life has to offer.We are both the person who can open a door and the person who can lock it.

We each can hold grace like a healing balm for your hearts as it opens the door that transforms our lives and relationships. Moving into a heart centered way of being allows us to feel what we may not be able to see, to see ourselves as God sees us.

I would invite you to extend grace to yourself and someone else today. You hold the key to peace and joy, use it to open doors to a grander vision for yourself and others than you ever imagined.

 

Want some one-on-one coaching time with me? I currently have openings for new clients and would love to work with you.  You can read more here.

My Question To You Is….

Everyday life brings about changes that like it or not, are constantly whittling away at the things that don’t fit, sometimes this happens by what we do, but often it is by what happens to us.  My question to you is, what changes have occurred for you and what parts of yourself are you re-building?

Being clear about what you are rebuilding in your putting is a gift you give yourself.
If you would like to talk more about this, please email me or respond to this email and we can set up half hour to talk…at no charge to you.  I’d love to hear from you!

Pressing the STOP button

Learning to create a pause between our thoughts and actions is a powerful tool to help us navigate life.  It is something that is always available to us that is simple, but at the same time profound.

We have all been there in that moment when we have had a negative reaction to something we have read, heard or experienced and have responded in a way we later regret. This connection between action and reaction happens to us in a matter of seconds and is recognized by the emotion it triggers in us.

Our brain labels these emotions based on the past experiences we have had in our past. Seeking to make meaning of this negative reaction, our mind compares it to other such experiences we have had and we feel it as anger, pain, hurt or a host of other emotions. This cause and effect scenario results in responding in ways that do not serve anyone.

Unless we make a change it can feel like we are stuck in a negative pattern. Creating a pause is to allow space between what happened and how we respond to it. This space that we give ourselves, allows us to stop and reflect how we want to be in the situation at hand, and that allows us to respond in a way that is healthy.

I know that this is easier to talk about than do since it is not our natural way to respond. However, it is one of the most important tools I teach my clients because it frees them from being at the mercy of negative thought patterns and allows them to have control over how they choose to respond.

BREAKING DOWN BIG IDEAS:

If you would like to learn how to push the STOP button and create space that allows a different response I will be doing a free 40 minute phone workshop on Tuesday, April 17 from 6:30 to 7:10 PM. Please respond to this email and I will send you the conference line information. Feel free to forward this on to friends who might want to register as well.

Happy Easter

“The great gift of Easter is hope – Christian hope which makes us have that confidence in God, in his ultimate triumph, and in his goodness and love, which nothing can shake.”  ~ Basil Hume

Blessings to you this day!

 

 

The Sky is the Limit

Choices occur in the moment, yet their consequences continue for a lifetime. Each choice is a powerful lever, and with slight present effort can alter your future by a million miles.  ~ Ralph Marston

I love synchronicity when it shows up in my life. I’m not sure if it is always there and we just don’t see it or if it comes and goes. Last night I was talking to my son about this very idea when this quote showed up in my in box this morning.

He was talking to me about perusing his Masters degree and was asking if the college he gets it from gives him an edge to get interviewed for a management job. He was talking with a colleague who is applying for a job as president of a major hospital. He told Chris that when he was considering his education, he never thought in a million years that he might have this opportunity, and if he could do over, would have made a different choice of schools.

I’m not looking to answer that question, and that is not the point, it is instead about do have have the foresight to realize and believe that the sky is the limit for what we can achieve? It does not matter what your circumstances are now, anything can happen when we are open to possibility.

Does the path need to be clear before we take it or do we set out in good faith knowing that our path will open before us? For me, I have found that each step leads to the next and when we can do our best to be open to possibility we end up in places we never dreamed of.

When we make our choices from a place of possibility rather than limitation we add energy to the process. I am wishing that for you today~