Looking Back and Still Moving Forward

” The ability to choose a new thought, create a new vision, or go after your dream lies within you. Every day brings new opportunities to create anew as long as you decide to put the drama of the past behind you. Take stock of your year and move forward in good faith that you can do anything you set your mind to.” Sandy Thibault

This seems to be a confusing idea that we can look backward and still be moving forward. All too often when we look back, we do it with blame and judgment against ourselves for things we could have or should have done differently. If we see the same patterns repeating, we might lose hope that we can make a change for the better. Recognize this as a cycle of negativity that keeps you stuck and unable to move forward. I think it is important to look back, but what if we embraced this reflection as a learning experience? We can learn from our past and build on our strengths. I call this building on your successes.

This last Sunday I was listening to the commentary after the football game. The commentary centered around the team being able to string together a series of positive plays, that resulted in a win. That not only works in football but also in life. We can make small positive steps consistently as we build skills and habits that push us toward what we want to achieve.

No matter what sport it is, they watch videos of previous games to understand what needs to be done differently. Doing this kind of inquiry for ourselves helps us to grow and learn about ourselves. It is not only helpful but important to look to our past and be able to let go of what we no longer need to carry, embrace our successes, and decide what steps we want to take as we move forward into this New Year.

The first thing to consider is gratitude. What good things happened this last year? What were your biggest learnings? What was your proudest moment? What possibilities came your way, and did you take advantage of them? When and where were you brave, kind, and/or courageous? What are you grateful for?

Your inquiry can continue with reflecting on things you would like to change. What ended or needs to end? What was your biggest regret or disappointment? What is out of balance? Where do you need to set boundaries? What do you need to forgive yourself for? What value or belief is no longer serving you?

The final part of the reflection involves putting the information you have learned into action. What are you committed to changing this year? What will pique my curiosity? What small steps will I take this year? Do I need to ask for help to move forward?

If you want to make something different in your life, you first need to be able to recognize the areas that cause friction and be willing to look at it and see it as a problem. Doing this kind of inquiry will help you begin to create a positive thought pattern that makes it easier to create a new vision for yourself. It’s your life and I know you have the ability to make it extraordinary.

Once per month I offer a free Zoom meeting called Coffee Conversations. There is some teaching of the topic and then it is open to discuss and ask questions. If you are curious about personal growth I encourage to to attend. Registration is required. See information below.

Refocus for 2023 – Pause – Reflect – Refocus

Join me for my next Coffee & Conversation on Wednesday, January 25th at 11:00 A.M. (CST) This is offered thru Zoom.

As always this is No-Fee offering but you must register by following the link.

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Topic: Coffee & Conversations: A New YearTime: Jan 25, 2023 11:00 AM Central Time (US and Canada)

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Refocus for 2023 – Coffee Conversations

Pause – Reflect – Refocus

Wishing all of you a wonderful year ahead and the promise that each new day brings.

Tradition tells us that the New Year is the time to make resolutions and decide to change everything that has not been changed in forever. I bet you know what I mean as I was the same way, big goals, no follow through.  Every January 1st, I made goals that at the time made perfect sense, but looking back they were not reasonable, nor were they sustainable over time.

Thankfully, I got smarter and wiser when I realized that meaningful change comes in small intentional steps that we do on a consistent basis.  If we want something to change in our behavior or attitude, we can’t do that with the same thinking we have always used. We need to get out of our own way so we can embrace a perspective that will help us forge a path forward.

For that to happen we can build on the things that we do well and get rid of the thoughts that keep is struck. In other words, it’s time to take stock of where we have been this last year so that we can celebrate wins, let go of what no longer works and move forward with intention.

There is a process I have used for ten years to close out the old year and only carry into the New Year things that will benefit me. Doing this process feels as good as it does when you clean that closet you have been putting off for far too long.

Join me for my next Coffee & Conversation on Wednesday, January 25th at 11:00 A.M. (CST) This is offered thru Zoom.

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Seeking Peace and Harmony Within

“The journey of life is a lot like creating pottery, you are always whittling away the bits of clay that are not needed to make your creation beautiful.” – Sandy Thibault

The state of the world, the circumstances of our family and friends, as well as things that are happening in our own life, can greatly impact our well-being. This experience of everyday living greatly impacts us and gets in the way of living a heart-centered life.  We want to live in peace and harmony, but we must remember it is not found outside of ourselves, it is found inside our own heart.  For our own benefit, and for those around us, I believe it is important to spend as much time looking inside as we do searching outside ourselves to find what we seek.

Over the last two decades, ground-breaking research tells us that the heart has its own unique logic that works outside of the autonomic nervous system. In 1991, Dr. J. Andrew Armour discovered that the heart has its own brain. Therefore, he was able to prove that heart signals are capable of reaching the higher brain centers, which then influences our reasoning and choices, as well as our perceptions and emotions.

This kind of research gives us powerful information that helps us connect to the importance of how we live our lives. We must decide to live in a way that is in alignment with our beliefs and values. It is more important than ever that we turn our focus toward the one place in ourselves that can change our perceptions, emotions, and ultimately our hearts.

This quotation from priest, professor, author, and theologian, Barbara Brown Taylor, captures the essence of it, “Salvation happens every time someone with a key uses it to open a door he could lock instead.” The person with the key is you—and the door she is talking about is the door to our hearts. Salvation is the grace that we extend to ourselves and others in the process of opening ourselves to what life has to offer; it is a response to the opening of the heart.

We are both the person who can open a door—and the person who can lock it. We do it all the time to ourselves and others. How often do we lock ourselves out of our own life? The life I am talking about is the one that is there waiting for all of us, the life God intended for us. It is the abundance, joy, peace, and harmony that God want us to have. We need to find that place inside us where we know this truth, and then allow it to affect the way we are in the world.

You are the key, and you hold grace like a healing balm for your heart. It is what happens in us when we open the door to our hearts, and that transforms our lives and relationships. Moving into a heart-centered way of being allows us to perceive ourselves as God sees us. I would invite you to extend grace to yourself and someone else today. You hold the key to peace and joy, so use it to open doors to a grander vision for yourself and others, quite possibly more than you ever imagined possible.

Wishing you a season of light, love and peace!



Coffee & Conversations: Finding Peace During the Holidays

“Our ability to transform what we are given is our greatest skill and most treasured asset.” ~ Sandy Thibault 

 I will be hosting a monthly coffee talk to explore ways to FIND PEACE DURING THE HOLIDAYS.

All talks will be an online Zoom event and is a complementary offering.


December Coffee & Conversations Topic: Finding Peace During the holidays

Facilitated by: Sandy Thibault, Life Coach

Date & Time: Tuesday, December 13th, 11:00 AM – 12:00 PM CST time

Email me with questions at: sthibault12@msn.com

Registration is required so I know how many people to expect. The invitation to register is listed below. This is open to anyone who might like to attend so if you want to forward this to friends they can also use the same link to register. 

You are invited to a Zoom meeting.
When: Dec 13, 2022 11:00 AM Central Time (US and Canada)

Register in advance for this meeting:

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting.

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting and a link by email before the meeting. 

Building Your Inner Resilience

I think on some level all of us know that we are powerful and that we can change our life for the better. It is one thing to know this in our heads but quite another thing to believe in our hearts with certainty, that this is true. This disconnect is not uncommon and we all must work at it. When we are experiencing something in our lives that is not going well, we tend to shrink into ourselves and dwell on the negative. Our ability to move from this life-draining space quickly is called resilience. We all have this ability to transform whatever life has thrown our way, and when we can do it, it becomes our greatest skill and most treasured asset.

Like anything else, this takes awareness and practice to be able to accelerate this movement from negative to positive. This is not a skill that we all should know; it is something you must learn.

I believe that the first step is to embrace a worthiness concept. This means that no matter where you are now, or where you have been, you are worthy. Ask yourself this question, how might your life be different if you believed you were deserving of every good thing in life? I hope this question piques your curiosity and you spend some time reflecting on it.

How do you honor your story? At whatever point you are in your journey, it is fair to say you have probably weathered your fair share of disappointments, loss, hurt, and even betrayals. How we experience what happens to us makes up our story. The story we tell ourselves and others will either boost our self-worth or diminish it. When this happens, the story will tell ourselves will either keep us stuck or help us to move forward. Change and moving forward can be scary, even when we want it more than anything. It’s okay to be afraid because that fear serves to keep us safe, but when it keeps us stuck in one place, it is time to make a small step through the fear.

We cannot change what has happened to us, but we can change how we relate to it. This does not mean that we simply try to forget about it or pretend it does not matter, because it always comes back, and this circle is what keeps us stuck. It’s a painful reminder about what has been or is. We can change our perspective by looking at what happened in a new way, or so to speak, with new eyes. This allows us to see it from another person’s point of view and grant ourselves and others some grace in what happened. Learning to change your perspective allows you to change the way you have thought about what happened and move into something more positive and life-giving.

Part of the process of changing your perspective is to begin to offer forgiveness to yourself and others. I know the idea of this is often difficult and the very thought of it is scary. Forgiveness is hard, so I often help people begin to be in the process of forgiveness by letting go of the small grievances from the day. It is important to note that forgiveness is not about being right or wrong, instead, it is a gift you give yourself so that what you carry is not so heavy and you can move through life with a greater sense of peace.

Learning to be resilient takes time and practice but the one thing I would encourage you to do each and every day is to begin imagining the best story for your life. What is the most positive and generous response you can have toward your life right now? We tend to say we can do it tomorrow or the next day, or when we lose all the weight we gained, but I urge you to do it now.


Coffee & Conversations: Building Your Inner Resilience

“Our ability to transform what we are given is our greatest skill and most treasured asset.” ~ Sandy Thibault 


 I will be hosting a monthly coffee talk to explore ways to build your inner resilience. 

All talks will be an online Zoom event and is a complementary offering.


November Coffee & Conversations Topic: Building Your Inner Resilience   Facilitated by: Sandy Thibault, Life Coach

Date & Time: Thursday, November 10th, 2:00 AM – 3:00 PM CST time

Email me with questions at: sthibault12@msn.com

Registration is required so I know how many people to expect. The invitation to register is listed below. This is open to anyone who might like to attend so if you want to forward this to friends they can also use the same link to register. 

You are invited to a Zoom meeting.
When: Nov 10, 2022 02:00 PM Central Time (US and Canada)

Register in advance for this meeting:

After registering, you will receive a confirmation email containing information about joining the meeting.

Fall: A Time to Let Go

After the heat of the summer, I look forward to the cooler temps of fall and the beautiful display of fall leaves. The brilliant panorama of leaves in all their glory is a sight to behold and a sharp contrast to what comes next when the trees shed their leaves. I am always amazed at how effortlessly this seems to happen. In the personal growth field, this ritual of fall is often used as a metaphor for letting go of unwanted thoughts and emotions. Don’t you wish it was so effortless to let go of the things in our life that cause us pain and discomfort?

We know that the negative thoughts and emotions we carry are not helpful to us, so we try our best to get rid of them or ignore them, but they just keep coming up. This happens because they are behaviors that were learned, usually a long time ago, and were meant to be helpful to us at the time. If you think back to your childhood or an earlier time in your life you can maybe see some things, you learned to do then that would help you stay emotionally or physically safe. The things we hang on to are almost always about keeping ourselves safe and that is what makes it so hard to let go of them.

Even though these things are causing pain and discomfort now, they were once invaluable to us. Instead of just trying to brush them away, it is better to befriend those thoughts and emotions. You might begin by asking yourself some questions such as what exactly are you hanging on to? How long have you hung on to the thoughts or emotions? What would happen to if you decided you wanted to let them go?  Remember this is an inquiry, you are just curious about how you got them and what your choices are now, should you decide to let them go.

This inquiry is all about just being curious so that means you are collecting information, but not judging what you find. Remember, you did the best you could at the time. You have learned a tremendous amount about yourself and now you get an opportunity to change it if you want to. There was a man in my coaching class that wanted to change a behavior he had. Once he learned how it got it, he decided he could live with it and was much more peaceful. I tell you this because we always have a choice about what we do in our lives. It’s all about living your life in a way that feels peaceful and harmonious to you.

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Change Your Perspective, Change Your Life

I believe that deep down we are all striving to live the very best life we can. However, because our lives are in a constant state of flux, it is essential to pay attention to the thoughts, feelings, and actions that these changes bring about. It is easy to get stuck in old thoughts or patterns that keep us stuck or otherwise limit our lives. When this happens it is important to take a deeper look inside, change what we can and then muster all the courage we have and take a step into our own life. This helps us to embrace a larger perspective for ourselves and for the world.

Even though we know it is important to pay attention to our lives, we do not have a manual that helps us find a path that works for us. I don’t believe that everything in life needs to be analyzed, but if something is bothering you that you cannot shake, it’s time to take a deeper look inside for answers.

One of the tools that I think is especially insightful and empowering is learning to look at things from a new perspective. This is the process of looking at what happened or what you are feeling from many different angles to gain insight and create a path forward that is kinder and more compassionate toward all involved, especially yourself.

One common theme that many people struggle with is something I call the “Not Enough” syndrome. Most of us have some version of that that informs us that we are not smart enough, thin enough, or have enough money. This idea is so deep-seated in our brains that it runs like a virus and informs our thoughts and actions. Once we are aware of this we can choose to see it in another way. For some reason, the negative things in our life carry the more emotional weight that weighs us down and makes us feel bad. So it is a matter of balancing the scales. For example, where in your life is there evidence that whatever bothers you is not true? What is this story without the drama? What other ways can you look at this?

I like to say, don’t believe everything you think because those thoughts keep you hostage. If you are looking for a new perspective allow your thoughts to become flexible, in other words, there might be more than one way to think about it and more than one right answer or way to solve it. Imagine if what you think is not right but a matter of reacting to an old pattern that was never true, to begin with.

When we allow ourselves the flexibility to change our minds and to open ourselves up to another viewpoint, our life opens up. I have owned a beautiful wooden kaleidoscope for a long time that reminds me that I get to change my mind. With the smallest twist, the image completely changes, and another picture emerges, not necessarily better or worse, just different than before. That can be a reminder for you too that when you change the way you think about things, you will open yourself to new possibilities that you never saw before. Staying open and flexible fosters more choices and creative ways that will help you navigate life with more ease and less stress.


Each month I will be hosting a coffee talk to talk more about Personal growth. This will be a online Zoom event and is a complementary offering. I will send a separate email with all the details. Let me know if this sounds interesting to you or topics you would like to see covered.




The Power of Flexibility: Increasing Your Own Well-Being

If you think I am talking about how much you can bend or stretch your body, touch your toes or how much range of motion you have, you would be only partially right. The more flexible our body is, the better able we are to preform our everyday tasks with ease. As we age, we know that this is an important aspect that helps preform the things we want to do with less pain and discomfort.

Since we know that physical flexibility keeps us healthy, so does mental flexibility. By that I mean the ability to be able to consider many ways to overcome an obstacle, the ability and willingness to change how we think about things so that we can move from our old ways of thinking and doing things to embrace something new. All of us can get stuck in the way we have always done something but that seldom serves us well.

Most of the limits we have in life are self-imposed. We make and create ways of being that can keep us stuck in a pattern of behaving and thinking that does not serve us. Every time we do that, we limit our life. For example, I find that I like things in my house to be a certain way.  However, when family come to visit for an extended visit the house looks like a tornado hit it. I used to get crabby and upset that everything was in such a mess so I would focus my energy to restore order, missing the fun of enjoying my family. I had not realized how stuck I was in having to have things a certain way until I felt the discomfort of not being present for my family. When you look at your own places you might also see behaviors or thinking that have kept you stuck and not able to move forward. Especially as we get older, it is easier to say I just won’t do that anymore, rather than to look for ways that you can do what you want.

One of the most powerful tools that we have in our personal growth toolbox is the opportunity to change our perspective. In essence, with every obstacle before us, we can stay stuck where we are, or we have the opportunity to move forward: it is always up to us. In other words, change your perspective, change your life.

Keep in mind that we live in a faced paced world, so our ability to transform what we are given every moment is our greatest skill and most treasured asset. Learn to recognize the places where you have emotional discomfort and rather than accepting or fighting the feeling, take a moment to STOP and name what you are feeling and be grateful for the chance to change it. PAUSE to take some deep breaths and let yourself find a calm place where you can REFLECT. With a journal in hand or a piece of paper, make a list of what is happening in your life that is causing issues for you. Try your best to stay out of the story of what is happening by making the list as simple and true as you can. It is the story that we create that keeps us stuck more than the actual event.

When you are ready, TAKE A STEP. For each item on the list, ask yourself what you need to make a positive change. Ask yourself what mindset or perspective would help you take a small step forward and then do it.

When life happens, we must adjust our sails and find new ways to navigate our lives that will open us to possibility, rather than limiting what we can do or accomplish. It is so not so much about what are circumstances are now, but more about the mindset that anything can and does happen when we open ourselves to possibility.

I believe with each choice; we are making our own possibilities. Just remember, never underestimate the power of your choices, as they propel you forward or hold you back.

When choices are made from a place of what is possible, rather than limitations, we add energy to the process by creating many paths to reach the same place. I have found that each step taken, it leads to the next when er are open to what is possible, and that that can lead us to new ways of thinking and acting that will increase our overall well-being.







Success always Leaves Clues

One of the most important aspects of personal growth is the idea that success always leaves clues. When people talk about their success it is often in terms of how lucky they were, or they just happened to be in the right place at the right time. I have found from my years of working with people that they don’t often think about the role they played in achieving that success.

Just last week I was talking to my daughter-in-law about a big opportunity that had come her way, one she could never have imagined for herself. She also talked about being lucky, being in the right place at the right time, and knowing a few key people. However, she told me how this had come about it was evident that she had done action steps that put her in a position where this was a possibility.

Don’t get me wrong, I believe there is a lot to say about the synchronicity of how things come about: It just does not happen out of the blue, it happens because you have put yourself out there. Maybe you have taken a risk to do something that is out of your comfort zone or maybe you have been courageous in how you decided to take action or changed your attitude from negative to positive.  You somehow have put yourself in a position where you are open and ready to receive whatever the universe brings to you.

If you look back on something that you thought was just a “lucky fluke” I bet, you can see that you had done something to put yourself out there. My daughter in law that was courageously taking a chance on presenting at a conference. If she had not done that, the wonderful new opportunity would never have presented itself.

Since success indeed leaves clues, it is also true that failure also leaves clues. This is a little different and more damaging to our self-esteem. In this scenario, we blame ourselves for some shortcomings that we think we have. If we didn’t have this flaw, we would have succeeded.  Instead of looking at failure as some form of “not being good enough” it is far more beneficial to let it be okay to fail because it provides such great information.

When we believe we are at fault we just keep trying harder to make it work. The harder we try, the more we don’t succeed. When failure can be seen from the point of view that something did not work as planned, then looking at what went wrong, changing it, or deciding to do something different leads us closer to what we desire.

Have you ever seen someone make the mistake repeatedly whether it is in business or their personal life? I am very focused on the idea that if you want to change something in your life, you need to think and act differently. However, that is not always as easy as it sounds. Each of us has a lot of negative thoughts and emotions that get in the way. If we don’t take the time to get a handle on our mental clutter, we keep looking at life through the same lenses.

The most important thing that I like people to realize is that with every thought you think and every action you take, you are creating your life. And with every choice, you are either making your life bigger or shrinking it. We all have times when we do that but so often we do it unconsciously and we are living a limited life.

I have had the opportunity to study people’s choices for many decades and the accumulation of these choices and it is clear to see how it has affected people’s lives either positively or negatively.

We have this idea that we have very little control over our lives and life happens as it does. This can be a life-limiting belief and what would happen if we challenged that thought?  Life situations happen to us that we have no control over but we always can control how we react to them, and deciding our next choices is how we will continue to move forward and be resilient to what life brings us.  My question in any situation is: what can I learn from this. This is a crucial question of whether you are learning from your success or your failure.

I understand that I am standing on the outside observing what I see in people. This unique perspective helps me to make observations that a persona can’t see for themselves. Beginning to question what we do and why will open the perspective to be able to see things in a new way.

One way to do this is to have someone who you can talk to that will give you honest feedback. The other way is to realize there are always two or more right answers to a problem. So instead of doing what you have always done, consider there might be another way that would be better.

Remember, we have way more power and choice in our lives than we use. Begin to imagine if you exercised your power of choice of thoughts and actions regularly, how might the quality of your life be different? Knowing success leaves clues, what if you purposefully set yourself up for success in your thoughts in actions?  What if you decided that you were going to learn from your mistakes and do something different…what then?