Master Class: Turning Negative Thoughts into Positive Action

Can you imagine trying to live life to the fullest when your inner critic is telling you all the reasons why you cannot? That is how negative thinking works, by finding just cause for why you cannot do or get what you want.

Think of negative thoughts like this: there is a constant committee in your head that is always hard at work criticizing you. You are being asked if you are good enough or capable enough to do what it takes to get what you want.

Our experiences and life events have taught all of us who we are. From early on in our life our mind works hard to make meaning of all our experiences through our thoughts and beliefs, which then influences what we think about ourselves and others. Those thoughts and beliefs inform our actions, so in essence, we are living out how we feel about ourselves. That is why we need to meet our negative thoughts face to face, look them squarely in the eye and decide to transform them into something positive so we can live in a way that is aligned with our desires. 

Questioning this committee in your head takes a little time and practice, but the more you do it the easier it becomes. The first step is to always become aware when your thoughts are negative. All too often negative thinking becomes the default thinking, recognize this as old thinking, and ask yourself how you can make a change in the thought. Once you recognize this is not helping you, then you can make choices on how to move forward with a more positive mind-set. 

Join me for this Master Class to learn how to manage your negative thinking!

Turning Negative Thinking Into Positive Action

Thursday Oct. 22nd, 2020

6:30 – 7:30 PM (Zoom Class)

$25.00

Can you imagine trying to live life to the fullest when your inner critic is telling you all the reasons why you cannot? That is how negative thinking works, by finding just cause for why you cannot do or get what you want.

How would you feel if you could change your negative thinking?

Would you like to be more hopeful and positive?

Are you looking for easier ways to live your life?

Are you seeking more harmony in your life?

In this class you will:

  • Learn to recognize negative thinking as your default thinking.
  • Learn how to challenge your thinking?
  • Explore tools that will help you move into a positive mind-set.

How to Register:

Send an email to: Reply to this email or send an email to: sthibault12@msn.com with your name and how many you are registering for. I will then send you an electronic invoice to pay online. Once I receive your online payment, I will send you the link to the class.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

MASTER CLASS:

Learning to Live with Change & Uncertainty

Thursday Oct. 1st,   2020

6:30 – 7:30 PM CST (Zoom Class)

$25.00

The truth is that there is nothing more constant in life than change, and with change comes uncertainty. However, change happens whether we want it or not, even though we do not know how the outcome will affect our lives. Since change and uncertainty are inevitable, the better we can learn to navigate it, the more harmony we will have in our day to day life.

How do you feel about change and uncertainty?

Do you feel uneasy with all the changes in your life?

Are you looking for easier ways to navigate the uncertain times?

Are you seeking more harmony in your life?

In this class you will:

  • Explore your relationship with change
  • Learn to recognize your default patterns
  • Explore tools that create harmony

How to Register:

Send an email to: sthibault12@msn.com with your name and how many you are registering for. I will then send you an electronic invoice to pay online. Once I receive your online payment, I will send you the link to the class.

 

 

Learning to Live with Change and Uncertainty

 

How do you feel about change and uncertainty? The truth is that there is nothing more constant in life than change, and with change comes uncertainty. Most of us find that keeping things the same is comfortable and easy, as it helps us maintain a sense of well-being. However, change happens whether we want it or not, even though we don’t know how the outcome will affect our lives. Since change and uncertainty are inevitable, the better we can learn to navigate it, the more harmony we will have in our day to day life.

There have been many events in history that have shocked our very foundation, leaving us feeling like we have lost our footing. What we are living with right now, is no different. History shows us that we will find our way through but as of now, we have no idea how this pandemic may be resolved. Just like the other events from history, it may change who we are and how we look at the world.

So, if you are feeling uncertain right now, you are not alone. Everyone is making difficult decisions as we weigh the risk associated with each new decision. For some it is returning to work or deciding if or when kids should go back to school, learning a new job, or early retirement.  There are also choices to made as we go about our personal lives while keeping ourselves and others safe. The circumstances of our lives are changing regularly and sometimes every day. When the answers are not clear or the path straight, it is hard to deal with life. The better we are able to manage and deal with life’s uncertainties the more we will experience well-being. It’s fair to say that the pandemic has caused all of us to change how we do almost everything and learning to live when life is not predictable is essential to our mental health.

Learning to live with uncertainty and change is a constant we all live with. Even though it is part of our life, it is hard to feel secure when there is so much, we don’t know. It is our nature to resist the unknown and when we do that, it causes suffering. To increase our well-being we must learn to live with what we don’t know.

Like you, I have had many experiences learning to navigate life when nothing is for sure. I have had many years of practice and I have learned not only from my own experience but also from my clients. Here are a few ideas that can help you learn to stay positive.

  • Focus on what is in front of you. Too often we find ourselves thinking about the past or the future when our attention needs to be in the present.
  • Practice flexibility with every situation. The more flexible you can be in your thoughts and actions the better able you are to adapt to any situation.
  • Identify any negative thoughts you have and re-frame them into a positive statement.
  • Become curious about situations in your life that go differently than you planned. Could lead you in a new direction or a spark of possibility that you could not see before?
  • Hindsight is 20/20 so resist the temptation to punish yourself for what you did or didn’t do.
  • Call to mind the qualities that help you through hard times.

But I think the single most important thing to know in your head and believe in your heart, is that you are way more resilient and capable than you realize. You can and should trust yourself to make good decisions for yourself and know that you will do the best you can with what you know at the time.

I know that you have weathered many storms in your life and have come out on the other side better than you were before. As much as we may not like change and uncertainly, it offers us a gift that shows us just how resilient, strong, and wise we really are. During this time be gentle with yourself and allow grace to wash over you and guide your days.

Sandy

If you are facing change and uncertainty, book a “no fee” 30 minute phone conversation with me by replying to this email. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

What If You could See Your Path Clearly?

Does everything feel a bit uncertain right now? You are not alone, lots of people are feeling the same way. The circumstances of our lives are changing regularly and sometimes every day.

A friend of mine would always say, there is nothing more constant in life than change. So with that being true, my question to you is: How do you feel about change?

I don’t have to tell you how much personal change everyone is going thru right now. People are having to navigate many changes like; going back into the workplace, or working from home while helping their kids with online school. Or maybe you are learning a new job, or retiring before you thought you would as well as managing all the changes in your personal life. It’s fair to say that the pandemic has caused all of us to change how we do almost everything.

Most of us find that keeping things the same is comfortable and easy. It helps to maintain a sense of well-being. However, change happens whether we want it or not, and how we learn to deal with it is important.

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If this sounds like you, and you would like to find a clear path, you will benefit from one of my “no fee” 30-minute phone coaching calls. I offer several of these a month and people are always surprised about how much clarity they can get in a short amount of time.

I hope you will take me up on this offer as it is my way to give back to the community. Just reply to this email. 

These spots will go quickly so book yours now!

 

Are You Struggling With Life?

“Be impeccable with your word.

Speak with integrity.

Say only what you mean.

Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.

Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.”
— Don Miguel Ruiz

When our thoughts, words or actions are out of alignment, we find ourselves in a struggle. It can be as easy and as hard as taking a reflective look inside. The mind, body and spirit want to live in harmony and we are not meant to struggle.  If you find yourself stuck and need of some help, coaching can help move through negative thinking so you can believe in yourself again.

Reply to this email to set up  a “no fee”  time to talk to Sandy about how to move from struggle to ease!

Do You Believe In Yourself?

The love of what you do, combined with your belief in what you do, will not determine your success. It will determine how hard you will work and dedicated you will be to achieving it.” – Jeffrey Gitomer

 
Reflection: When people tell me what they believe I never doubt them. I have learned that whatever they believe is the absolute truth to them and if they think they can do something, they do. Unfortunately, the opposite is also true. If you don’t believe you can, it will be very difficult, if not impossible to achieve. I urge you today to take one of your negative beliefs and challenge them. When you are courageous enough to move past one way of thinking, you have the perspective that allows the negative thoughts to melt away and you can see the possibilities.

Lessons To Live By

Our ability to transform what we are given is our greatest skill and most treasured asset. 

– Sandy Thibault

  • Practice forgiveness
  • Seek understanding first
  • Be kind
  • Take responsibility for what you say and do
  • Don’t hold on to anger
  • Learn to “Be Still”

Tune into my Facebook Live on Thursday, May, 28 at 11:00 where I will talk more about each of these.

You can also watch the replays of my other video’s on my  Facebook Page

What Will Change for You When the Pandemic Is Over?

 

In all aspects of my life, I must ask myself: What really matters, what brings me joy, and what brings me to the fullest expression of who I am?

I think the question posed above, is an interesting question since it was not that long ago when we were just concerned with learning to master the day! But we did it, and if nothing else, we realized we are resourceful and resilient people as we learned how to live, work, and play while social distancing.

However, now the social distancing restrictions have been eased a bit as stores and restaurants have begun to open, giving us hope that we can begin to see that there will be an end to this pandemic.

I recently read an article in the New York Times about what historians tell us about how pandemic’s end. They cite that they end in one of two ways, either a medical end is found, meaning a medical intervention halts the spread of the disease, or there is a social end to the pandemic when people find a way to live with it.

Since the virus still has not hits its peak in Minnesota, and we are beginning to slowly re-open without a vaccine, each of us will have to figure out what makes sense for our own safety and well-being.

I know all of us will find the path that works best for us but what about the long-range changes?

  • Some predict that more people than ever will work from home, will that be possible for you?
  • Perhaps through this time at home you have done some soul searching and realized you want to change some aspect of yourself or how you live.
  • Or maybe you have decided that you want to live a life that is more authentic and in alignment with the values and the things you care deeply about.

This time of “stay at home” has given us the time and space to delve deeper into what we want for our lives and discern what is important. To find what really matters to us, we need to look beyond the usual answers. We need to be willing and able to challenge what we value and believe – to discover if it is based on our truth or someone else’s. At your center is the place of heart or God that is within you. It is the place where who you are meets the outside world. It is also the place of wisdom that if you listen, you can begin to discern what matters to you. Once you discover it, it will act as the center point of the compass pointing the way to a more authentic life.

If you find yourself wanting to talk more about what can change for you, reply to this email to have a “no fee” conversation.

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Everything You Need, You Have!

This is certainly an interesting idea now with Covid-19 and the shortages of products we are accustomed to getting. Making a grocery list is like making a  Christmas list. You put your item on the list, go to the store or arrange for pick-up, and are surprised at what is available and what is not, figuring out or make adjustments for what you did not get. We know that we are happy to have what we have, and are grateful for what we get. We take it all in stride with a grateful heart.

But when I wrote the chapter on this in my book, I was not talking about the physical items we have, but instead our ability and the inner resources we have to stay positive when things in our lives change dramatically.

It all starts with the mind set that we are enough. All of us have the skill and the positive qualities to be able to use our thoughts, words and actions in a way that will benefit our own well-being. All to often we are judgmental and negative to ourselves, rather than being kind and compassionate. When something bad or unfamiliar happens, even though it is a hard thing to do, it is very beneficial to our mental health to dig deep into ourselves to uncover the best of who we are. We forget that we have weathered many storms in our lives and have gained wisdom that we can use now.

Perhaps YOU have forgotten that YOU are:

WISE – BRAVE – COURAGEOUS – OPEN MINDED – UNDERSTANDING – KIND – REASONABLE –

SELF DISCIPLINED – HOPEFUL – SPIRITUAL – TRUSTING

  • What would be your top three qualities?
  • How can you use them right now to help keep you positive?

A business coach friend of mine always tells me that once you take of yourself from the neck up, everything else will take care of itself. Taking care of our thoughts by being aware of our mind set keeps us positive and moving forward.  If we can remember that no matter what, we really do have everything inside of ourselves to make the desired changes in how we think or act, we will be able to navigate our life with greater ease.

YOU HAVE THE ABILITY TO AFFECT THE OUTCOME OF YOUR LIFE!

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Making An Emotional First Aid Kit

Yesterday, I did a Facebook Live (the link is posted below) where I talked about the importance of making an emotional first aid kit for yourself. We can do almost anything for a short period of time, however, when the time gets extended, it can become much harder to maintain our own well-being and keep a positive attitude. Collectively we are all trying to figure out how to navigate this new normal.

I have been asking people what they need hear right now and several people said they were afraid they might find themselves feeling overwhelmed, sad and discouraged, not able to stay positive during this.

Those are all normal feelings to have but it will not be helpful for us to dwell on them. I believe that rather than being fearful that this may happen and we won’t know how to get out of it, I think it is better to just plan that sometime this might happen, it’s normal and yes, we can have a plan to get out of it.  Living in fear does not help us to use the wisdom we all have.

  • Changing your thinking from “what if this happens”  to “chances are good that sometime during this time I will find myself struggling” is a mind shift that moves you from a reactive frame of mind to a proactive one.
  • When you are reactive, you are in fear and cannot use the wisdom you already have. However, when you are feeling emotionally strong and positive, you are in a good place to make a plan that you can use if you feel you are struggling.
  • We have a First Aid kit at our house because we know that accidents happens and we want to be prepared when they do. This is the same concept we can use to boost our own mental health.

I suggest that you make your own mental Health First aid kit. For example, my granddaughter can get over excited or overwhelmed. She is being taught how to manage her own emotions by having a calming corner. Sometimes she needs to be reminded that she needs to use it and other times she knows she needs it. In her special place she has activities that will help her identify what she is feeling and move past it. It is very effective and she is learning a life skill.

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