When Was The Last Time You Felt Like A Million Dollars?

I am hoping you will say a lot, but I fear that you might not remember when the last time was. For many of us, we were taught from an early age how to be, and it was usually proper and reserved.

So this part of ourselves is buried way down inside and we may even fear it is gone altogether, but I assure you it is not. Sometimes it just takes a little excavation and the mindset that you will give herself permission to find it and revel in it.

I often talk to clients about what makes them feel special or like a million dollars as a way to help them get in touch with those parts we keep hidden. The picture above is the result of asking just that question. It worked…she reported feeling million dollars in those red stilettos!

Red stilettos are not for everyone, but finding this part of you is! I am often heard saying…everyone needs a pair of red shoes but it does not need to be one thing in particular, it just needs to be getting in touch regularly with brings you sheer delight, whether it is red stilettos or something else.

I hope you go for it….dig down deep and find what it is that makes you feel like a million dollars!

The “Chicken” In Me!

This is part of a story that was published a few months ago in a book of Anthologies called, Watershed Moments, compiled by Kathryn M Holmes. It is a book of dramatic stories from people experiencing faith based changes in their life. I was asked if I would be willing to contribute two stories and here is the first one of those stories. 

As you read it, I hope it will prompt you to think about your own life and the experiences that have changed your perspective. If you would like to share, I would love to hear, and you can just reply to this email.  Enjoy!

Who knew that a chicken, a real live one, would prove to be a pivotal moment in my life? Of course there is more than simply the chicken, so the story goes like this…

The Minneapolis/St. Paul area synod and the Iringa Diocese of Tanzania, along with many other churches, are part of a internship called Bega Kwa Bega. This is Swahili for “Shoulder to Shoulder,” which is the basis for our working together; we work side by side. Our church had a partnership with this program for many years, and felt strongly that to have this kind of relationship it meant we had to visit Tanzania.

I was sitting in a pew listening to three women speak who had recently came back from their first-ever trip to visit this remote village. I knew in an instant that I would be on that next trip. Becasue my husband could see I knew that in every part of my body, he leaned over and said, ” You are going, and there is nothing I can do to stop you, right?” Yes, indeed, I was going even if I could not articulate why.

Here is where it gets interesting. I had never been out of the U.S. I’m not an adventurer. I don’t like to be out of my comfort zone. Now I’m going to a third-world country for three weeks? Oh, did I mention I did not have the money, and my family was not thrilled with this idea?

I sat around a table with eight others, who were also interested in going the next year, in order to hear the details of what this experience would be like. We heard about the roads we would travel on, the remoteness  of the village, the bathroom facilities or lack thereof, and what everyday like would be like once we got there. All if a sudden it sank in, and I got really frightened. As I voiced my concern, and admitted that I did not know if I could manage it, a good friend pit his thumbs under his arm pits and started to squawk like a chicken. I was horrified. My friend had confronted me on my fear – and in hindsight I am glad he did.

What would happen if we never get out of our comfort zones? Thank you, dear friend. My hope is we all have people who will do this for us.

Read More

Grace: A Healing Balm

 “Salvation happens every time someone with a key uses it to open a door he could lock instead.” – Barbara Brown Taylor

We each hold the key, and the door she is talking about is the door to our hearts. Salvation is the grace that we extend to ourselves and others in the process of opening ourselves to what life has to offer.We are both the person who can open a door and the person who can lock it.

We each can hold grace like a healing balm for your hearts as it opens the door that transforms our lives and relationships. Moving into a heart centered way of being allows us to feel what we may not be able to see, to see ourselves as God sees us.

I would invite you to extend grace to yourself and someone else today. You hold the key to peace and joy, use it to open doors to a grander vision for yourself and others than you ever imagined.

 

Want some one-on-one coaching time with me? I currently have openings for new clients and would love to work with you.  You can read more here.

My Question To You Is….

Everyday life brings about changes that like it or not, are constantly whittling away at the things that don’t fit, sometimes this happens by what we do, but often it is by what happens to us.  My question to you is, what changes have occurred for you and what parts of yourself are you re-building?

Being clear about what you are rebuilding in your putting is a gift you give yourself.
If you would like to talk more about this, please email me or respond to this email and we can set up half hour to talk…at no charge to you.  I’d love to hear from you!

Pressing the STOP button

Learning to create a pause between our thoughts and actions is a powerful tool to help us navigate life.  It is something that is always available to us that is simple, but at the same time profound.

We have all been there in that moment when we have had a negative reaction to something we have read, heard or experienced and have responded in a way we later regret. This connection between action and reaction happens to us in a matter of seconds and is recognized by the emotion it triggers in us.

Our brain labels these emotions based on the past experiences we have had in our past. Seeking to make meaning of this negative reaction, our mind compares it to other such experiences we have had and we feel it as anger, pain, hurt or a host of other emotions. This cause and effect scenario results in responding in ways that do not serve anyone.

Unless we make a change it can feel like we are stuck in a negative pattern. Creating a pause is to allow space between what happened and how we respond to it. This space that we give ourselves, allows us to stop and reflect how we want to be in the situation at hand, and that allows us to respond in a way that is healthy.

I know that this is easier to talk about than do since it is not our natural way to respond. However, it is one of the most important tools I teach my clients because it frees them from being at the mercy of negative thought patterns and allows them to have control over how they choose to respond.

BREAKING DOWN BIG IDEAS:

If you would like to learn how to push the STOP button and create space that allows a different response I will be doing a free 40 minute phone workshop on Tuesday, April 17 from 6:30 to 7:10 PM. Please respond to this email and I will send you the conference line information. Feel free to forward this on to friends who might want to register as well.

Happy Easter

“The great gift of Easter is hope – Christian hope which makes us have that confidence in God, in his ultimate triumph, and in his goodness and love, which nothing can shake.”  ~ Basil Hume

Blessings to you this day!

 

 

The Sky is the Limit

Choices occur in the moment, yet their consequences continue for a lifetime. Each choice is a powerful lever, and with slight present effort can alter your future by a million miles.  ~ Ralph Marston

I love synchronicity when it shows up in my life. I’m not sure if it is always there and we just don’t see it or if it comes and goes. Last night I was talking to my son about this very idea when this quote showed up in my in box this morning.

He was talking to me about perusing his Masters degree and was asking if the college he gets it from gives him an edge to get interviewed for a management job. He was talking with a colleague who is applying for a job as president of a major hospital. He told Chris that when he was considering his education, he never thought in a million years that he might have this opportunity, and if he could do over, would have made a different choice of schools.

I’m not looking to answer that question, and that is not the point, it is instead about do have have the foresight to realize and believe that the sky is the limit for what we can achieve? It does not matter what your circumstances are now, anything can happen when we are open to possibility.

Does the path need to be clear before we take it or do we set out in good faith knowing that our path will open before us? For me, I have found that each step leads to the next and when we can do our best to be open to possibility we end up in places we never dreamed of.

When we make our choices from a place of possibility rather than limitation we add energy to the process. I am wishing that for you today~

 

What I Want You To Know!

“Suffering is a moment of clarity, when you can  no longer deny the truth of a situation and are forced into uncomfortable change. Inside suffering is a seed of change.”  ~ Navel Ravikant

I’m sure you may have heard me say this a million times that people live with their suffering far too long. When the truth of something hits us square in the face it is a message that something is going on in our life that we need to pay attention to and resolve. However, most of us use it as a judgement against ourselves, making it about something we did or did not do. Worse yet, we make it about our being worthy or not worthy, or smart enough.

I would like to caution you to stop the habit of judgement against self and instead view this as an opportunity to learn and grow from. There is no reason to suffer any longer, understand what is needed and then move forward, leaving the situation behind you.

What’s New:

I have been working on my new book about Navigating Life and have been doing complementary intro sessions by tele-class or individual phone call.  The next tele-class will be late March or early April. If you would like to take me up on my offer of a 30 minute free session, please respond to this email. I would love to talk with you!

I have also been sending these out so they arrive in your inbox on Sunday rather than Monday when it is so busy. Let me know if you like the change.

 

The Benefits of being “Not Busy”

“Busy is a Decision.” ~ Debbie Millman

Have you ever meet anyone that has said they are not busy when you have asked them how they are? I have not! For most of us being busy is a way of life. I know for myself, I have not let a lot of grass grow under my feet; sometimes good and sometimes bad, I have excelled at keeping myself busy.

This year, my husband retired and we decided to spent 7 weeks in Florida. Don’t get me wrong, I love the ocean, the sunrises and walks on the beach, but I have to say that being away from my normal routine, friends, my clients, our cat and our community, has been a challenge for me.

I believe we learn from every experience and I realized it was my turn to learn about the idea of ” not being busy”.  Here is what I would like to pass along to you:

  • Straying from the normal routine provides a new perspective. I have found that things look different in new settings and new insights surface readily.
  • Having a slower pace helps to re-think the things that have kept us so busy. It provides an opportunity to make things different.
  • We are often too preoccupied to appreciate what is right in front of us. Every morning as I watch the sun rise over the ocean I can feel the wonder and awe in nature, and am appreciative for my life.
  • The slower pace, the time way, has given me a new guideline and perspective to follow as I go back my normal routines.

If busy is your normal, you might find that doing some of these things right where you are will be helpful. Stray from your normal routine regularly, do something you have never done, spend time doing nothing, decide what you can stop doing and do what is truly necessary.

I would love to hear your stories about this!  Email me here.

Angel Wings

We all have favorite places that we like to travel, some like the mountains, the dessert or the ocean. I am someone who loves the ocean. Every sunrise is so different, some start out cloudy and threatening only to have the sun pop thru and make for a gorgeous sunny day. There are turtles and jellyfish that have washed up on the shore and I realize the delicate balance there is in nature and in life. Watching the tides go in and out is also a marvelous display of God’s handiwork.

I have had the privilege of watching the sunrise every morning and wait to see what beautiful gift the tide has left behind. The beach we are on is not a good one to pick up shells, but still I go out each morning to see what I could find. Intact shells are a rarity to stumble upon so I was so surprised when a woman showed me her Angel Wing shell that was perfect. She said she lived near the beach and could find them anytime so she gave me the shell. I thanked her and felt like I had received a most precious gift.

I love metaphors and this felt like a representation of life itself. I don’t know if you have seen an angel wing shell but it is beautiful and I loved the gift I had been given. Every morning I continued to look for shells and several days later found my own angel Wing on the beach. At first glance it looked perfect, but when I bent down to pick it up, I noticed it was perfect in every way but it had a hole in the middle. Immediately I knew this shell was a better representation for what our lives are like.

God made us perfect in every way, whether we can see it or not. This shell was a reminder for me that everyone has had their share of hurt, shame, and grief to name a few. Often we let those hurts define us and color our perception of who we are. The angel wing I found, the one with a hole in it, is a reminder that if when we feel like life may have betrayed us, we must remember we are whole and beautiful, just like my Angel Wing shell.

Inspired Action: Make a decision to put your hurts aside for today and focus on all that is good and wonderful about you. Imagine your life as the Angel Wing shell. Perhaps you will be called to journal about it.