Monday Inspiration

The Benefits of being “Not Busy”

“Busy is a Decision.” ~ Debbie Millman

Have you ever meet anyone that has said they are not busy when you have asked them how they are? I have not! For most of us being busy is a way of life. I know for myself, I have not let a lot of grass grow under my feet; sometimes good and sometimes bad, I have excelled at keeping myself busy.

This year, my husband retired and we decided to spent 7 weeks in Florida. Don’t get me wrong, I love the ocean, the sunrises and walks on the beach, but I have to say that being away from my normal routine, friends, my clients, our cat and our community, has been a challenge for me.

I believe we learn from every experience and I realized it was my turn to learn about the idea of ” not being busy”.  Here is what I would like to pass along to you:

  • Straying from the normal routine provides a new perspective. I have found that things look different in new settings and new insights surface readily.
  • Having a slower pace helps to re-think the things that have kept us so busy. It provides an opportunity to make things different.
  • We are often too preoccupied to appreciate what is right in front of us. Every morning as I watch the sun rise over the ocean I can feel the wonder and awe in nature, and am appreciative for my life.
  • The slower pace, the time way, has given me a new guideline and perspective to follow as I go back my normal routines.

If busy is your normal, you might find that doing some of these things right where you are will be helpful. Stray from your normal routine regularly, do something you have never done, spend time doing nothing, decide what you can stop doing and do what is truly necessary.

I would love to hear your stories about this!  Email me here.

Angel Wings

We all have favorite places that we like to travel, some like the mountains, the dessert or the ocean. I am someone who loves the ocean. Every sunrise is so different, some start out cloudy and threatening only to have the sun pop thru and make for a gorgeous sunny day. There are turtles and jellyfish that have washed up on the shore and I realize the delicate balance there is in nature and in life. Watching the tides go in and out is also a marvelous display of God’s handiwork.

I have had the privilege of watching the sunrise every morning and wait to see what beautiful gift the tide has left behind. The beach we are on is not a good one to pick up shells, but still I go out each morning to see what I could find. Intact shells are a rarity to stumble upon so I was so surprised when a woman showed me her Angel Wing shell that was perfect. She said she lived near the beach and could find them anytime so she gave me the shell. I thanked her and felt like I had received a most precious gift.

I love metaphors and this felt like a representation of life itself. I don’t know if you have seen an angel wing shell but it is beautiful and I loved the gift I had been given. Every morning I continued to look for shells and several days later found my own angel Wing on the beach. At first glance it looked perfect, but when I bent down to pick it up, I noticed it was perfect in every way but it had a hole in the middle. Immediately I knew this shell was a better representation for what our lives are like.

God made us perfect in every way, whether we can see it or not. This shell was a reminder for me that everyone has had their share of hurt, shame, and grief to name a few. Often we let those hurts define us and color our perception of who we are. The angel wing I found, the one with a hole in it, is a reminder that if when we feel like life may have betrayed us, we must remember we are whole and beautiful, just like my Angel Wing shell.

Inspired Action: Make a decision to put your hurts aside for today and focus on all that is good and wonderful about you. Imagine your life as the Angel Wing shell. Perhaps you will be called to journal about it. 

 

What You Do Everyday Matters!

In our busy days and even busier lives, what we do every day often runs together. Have you ever thought back to what you did yesterday and can’t recall what it was? It often feels like we are running on auto pilot and not getting any closer to what we desire.

I know that what we each do every single moment of our lives matters and yet I know how hard making a change can be. In an effort to make those changes, we easily fall into the habit of doing the same old things, but somehow expecting different results. Simply put, Change requires intentional and consistent action on our part.

When I felt myself stuck in behaviors that were not moving me closer to my goals, my business coach challenged me to begin to pay attention to every thing I did. That meant looking at the attitudes I held, as well as my current plan of action. Slowing down and taking a close look at my path reveled many insights. Those tidbits of information gave me the clues I needed to begin making small changes to what I did everyday. These new actions and attitudes supported my goals that created  momentum toward what I wanted. This is true in our personal life as well. If we want to change something we must become purposeful in our actions to make that change. Below you will find a way to begin.

Inspired action:

  • Choose one area of your life or one thing you would like to change
  • Identify the current steps you using to achieve your goal.
  • Make a decision to change an old habit or way of thinking that is limiting you.
  • Try a new approach or be curious about a new way to reach your goal.
  • Write down the action steps!

 

 

 

The Message of Discontentment

The book Simple Abundance, published 23 years ago, is one of my favorite inspirational reads. I go back to that book more than any other because it speaks to the heart of what we are all yearning for; is to live authentically as ourselves, not some other version someone has created for us.

Setting out on this path to get closer to who we are and what we want to accomplish for ourselves takes some courage and willingness to take a close in-depth look inside ourselves.

20 some years ago I had no idea that this would become my path too. In fact, I was too scared to look inside and just wanted unresolved things to go away, instead they became more visible, until I had no choice in the matter. None of us like to be in the position of feeling like we are backed into a corner. I will readily admit that this was my own fault, I had nudging’s of discontent for years that told me that I had things to resolve for my own peace of mind however, I would always brush them away until I could no longer do that. One day the universe presented me with a situation I had to look at and I am forever grateful for the opportunity to heal past wounds and become my own authentic self. I wished I had not suffered as long as I did.

Most often what brings people to me is that something had happened that make themselves look deeply into themselves and they find they are scared and don’t know what to do. Once on the other side of it, they wonder what took them so long, but like me, they wondered why they had suffered in it as long as they did.

I have made it my message to teach people that it is not worth it to leave something unresolved for long. It eats away at our spirit and causes dis-ease in our life. Make a promise to yourself today that you will notice your own discontent and promise yourself to align your head and heart.

Inspired Action:  Whenever you fell discontent, it is a message that there is something that needs your attention. Take time to pay attention to those places. Ask yourself what you need to do to resolve what is bothering you and then do it.

Blessings on your day!

If you have questions about this process give me a call or send an email. It is my mission, I’d love to talk with you!

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Living Authentically…The Blessing Jar!

I think we would all agree with the idea that we are richer and more affluent than many in our world. However, sometimes in the struggles of daily living or when we have more dark days than light, we have trouble seeing that there is hope and light in the world. At times like this it is hard to connect to the blessings that we already have.

Brene Brown says it so well when she said, ” It seems that gratitude without practice may be a little like faith without works – it’s not alive.

Acknowledging what we are grateful for, or calling to mind the blessings in our life changes the lens that we use to view our life. It can help us move from struggle to ease and from dark into light.

A client of mine shared with me, and with permission I’m sharing with you, just how important it was for her to begin this practice. She said that it helps to call to mind each day the blessings she has received and helps her keep a positive spirit.

To make your own blessing jar take any container you have and label it “Blessings” and each day add your blessing for the day to the jar.

My hope is that each one of you reading this will find YOUR own way to call to mind how you have been blessed each day. I believe, doing so cultivates grace and hope in our lives. I’d love to hear from you, please leave me a comment!

Blessings to you,

Sandy

Do You Like Your Life?

Open your eyes, look within. Are you satisfied with the life you are living?

~ Bob Marley

When I first saw this question posted on a blog I was a little taken back. My first response was, of course, I like my life. I actually think that is the response that most people who give when the question is first asked. But when I look at little deeper I see some parts of my life are better than other parts. When I open my eyes and look deeper there are many things that I would like to change and relationships I would like to improve the would make life easier. As life long learners in the game of life, I think we are all engaged in making our life better. As much as we want that, I often hear that knowing just how to make those changes stops people from moving toward what they desire.

With that in mind, I have created a complementary 35 minute phone tele-class called: 5 Strategies for Navigating Life with Greater Harmony.  I will cover 5 strategies along with ways to implement them. You will also get a downloaded to save or print that you can refer to after the session. This is part of my New Year intention to not only inspire people but to give you the tools to make changes you want.

It is on Thursday evening, January 25th from 6:30 PM to 7:15 PM. I’m limiting this to 6 participants so let me know if you would like to be part of it by responding to this email.

The Key That Unlocks Everything!

If I could give you one key, and only one key to a more abundant life, I would give you a sense of your own worth, an unshakable sense of your own dignity as one grounded in the source of the cosmic dance, as one who plays a unique part in the unfolding of the story of the world…    ~ Greta Cosby

A common theme with so many people is they feel like they are not smart enough, good enough or worthy of what they want in life. I hear this over and over again and the hardest part it is that my clients have carried this far too long, not knowing how to change it or worse yet, believing they can’t change it.

The beliefs we carry are learned behavior from the past experiences in our life. Many of those were learned when we were too young to know better and or had the maturity to look at it differently. We automatically carry them into our adulthood and after a while the mind will look for all the ways it is true. But guess what, when you begin to believe you are enough, your mind will begin look for all the ways that is true, as well.

We tend to think that the process of making deep seated changes requires a lot of work and takes a long time. At one time I thought that too, but the more work I did on myself and with others, I realized that we make it much harder than it needs to be. A key factor in making changes is the willingness to have an open heart and mind to look deep inside and make a decision to heal what needs healing so we can let the old beliefs go.

Inspired Action: The Key to Self Worth 

What are the beliefs that you carry that no longer serve you?

Which ones keep reoccurring in your mind?

What needs healing in order for you to let go?

What would you rather believe about yourself?

Self worth is a key issue that so many struggle with for long periods of time. Give yourself a gift and take a step to move out of that belief system.

Have questions about this? Email me for a complementary conversation.

New Coaching Option: I offer Pin Point coaching sessions that are a hour and half phone session or two 45 minute phone sessions that help people get started and gain traction in one area of life. Sometimes everyone needs a boost to get pointed in the right direction and gain momentum to move forward. Check out the details here

 

STOP – PAUSE – REFLECT – TAKE A STEP!

Every part of ourselves and our lives are in constant motion. ~ Sandy Thibault

Last week in my blog post, I said that our ability to transform what life has given us is our greatest skill and most treasured asset. Our world and our lives are in constant change and when we have the ability to move through it with ease and grace, it is a gift to our own well-being.

We tend to be more accepting of change when we view it as positive and clearly beneficial to our lives. But even then, it is often a mixed bag of emotions from fear to joy and everything in between, as we venture into something new.

When we view what happened as negative or sad, or perhaps it came as a complete surprise, it is harder to accept and see the blessing in it. It is our human nature to try our best to make meaning of it, but often we get caught up in fear or sadness and end up in spinning in circles as we try to figure it out. That is why it is so important to learn recognize when it happens and then be able to transform it and take a step forward. This is what my new book is about; helping YOU navigate life with ease.

For me, 2017 was a year full of changes, some anticipated and some surprises. My job as a Ministry Coach was eliminated, I transformed my coaching business, started writing a new book, my husband retired and we are spending two and half months in Florida near the ocean, our kids and of course, our lovely granddaughter. This was a lot of change and a mixed bag of emotions that I found myself getting stuck in. Authenticity is something I value and it means that my words and actions need to match. So as I coach, if I am to help others, I need to practice what I teach! Over time, I have developed and used the process below as a way to begin to transform where you are, to where you want to be.

Inspired Action: STOP – PAUSE – REFLECT – TAKE A STEP 

STOP: When there is constant motion in our body or mind, we can’t get the needed perspective to make a change. Find a quiet place where you can be reflective and not interrupted.

PAUSE: Breathe, breathe and breathe some more. Put the phone away, turn off any media and allow your pulse and breathing to quiet. I also found that coloring helps to center people and bring a quieter state of mind.

REFLECT: With journal in hand or a piece of paper, write down what is happening in your life right now that is causing issues for you. I find it helpful to write it down so you can see it on paper.

TAKE A STEP: Decide what small step you can take forward and then do it.

New Coaching Option: I offer Pin Point coaching sessions that are a hour and half phone session or two 45 minute phone sessions that help people get started and gain traction in one area of life. Sometimes everyone needs a boost to get pointed in the right direction and gain momentum to move forward. Check out the details here

If you have not downloaded your 2017 Year In Review, you can do so by clicking on this Link

 

 

Are You Excited To Start 2018?

“Our ability to transform what life has given us into something positive and meaningful, becomes our greatest skill and most treasured asset. “ Sandy Thibault

I’m excited for the new year because it is a chance re-focus on what we want in the coming year. Because I know that the most valuable gift you can give yourself is improvement to self, I have made some changes that will help you achieve that.

For 15 years I have written a Monday Inspiration that I love doing. However, I know it is not enough to just be inspired, we all need ways to take action in our lives in a way that nourishes our well-being. At whatever point you are in your life, it is fair to say that you have weathered your fair share of disappointments, hurts, loss and even betrayals. I believe that the most important thing we can all do is to look deeply into ourselves and transform anything that holds us back from our dreams and aspirations.

I believe this so strongly that it is the premise of my new book out this summer. It will give you:

Powerful questions to help you explore areas of your life more deeply

Tools to navigate life easier

Teachings about acceptance, forgiveness, letting go and many more

Each weekly post will be a sneak peak into my new book.

I have also added some new opportunities for you to grow and learn:

I now offer coaching by phone or Skype/Face-time

Pinpoint sessions: one and a half hour or two 45 minutes coaching sessions have been added to help you can traction in one area of your life.

Free downloads on specific topics

With 2017 almost behind us and 2018 upon us, it is helpful to close one year as we move into the next. It gives us closure and perspective about what we did well and were we might want to improve. Reflecting on the past year can be a powerful tool for self-growth. You can down load it here

I want to gain traction this year… more information

Free Gift To Start The New Year!

“New Year’s Day. A fresh start. A new chapter in life waiting to be written. New questions to be asked, embraced, and loved. Answers to be discovered and then lived in this transformative year of delight and self-discovery. Today carve out a quiet interlude for yourself in which to dream, pen in hand. Only dreams give birth to change.”  ~Sarah Ban Breathnach

Reflecting on the last year is an intentional and powerful way to bring closure to one year and begin another. Because I believe that this in such an important way to end the old year before beginning the next, I have created questions to help you reflect on the past year.

3-reasons to download and print my free gift:

To start the New Year out with an intentional mindset.

Bring to mind the things that are positive and express gratitude for them.

It helps us offer self compassion to ourselves for what has been negative, allowing the opportunity to let go so they are not carried into the next year. 

You can download it and print here.

New service added: 1- one and a half hour or 2-45 minute phone Pinpoint coaching session. I can help you move past roadblocks and into inspired action toward your goals.  This is a powerful way to start the New Year!

I wish you all the most fabulous New Year!