Sneak Peek…

I am getting very excited about my new book that I have been working on all summer. In the next few weeks I will be announcing the name and let you get a peek at the cover. Until then I wanted to share an excerpt from the book. I would love to hear your thoughts…just hit reply. Thank you so much!

Everything You Need–You Already Have!

“I want you to get excited about who you are, what you are, what you have, and what can still be for you.  I want to inspire you to see that you can go far beyond where you are right now.”

Virginia Satir

I remember that my grandmother Selma had high standards for herself and others, and believed in me more than I believed in myself. One day in a conversation, when I must have been particularity down on myself, she said to me: “I can’t be the only one who believes in you. You have to do your part, too!”

This was my first introduction into knowing that I had the ability to affect the outcome of my life, and I could do it by changing my thinking and my attitude. I knew it was not about wishing things were different, but that no matter what came my way, and a lot did, I had what I needed inside me to navigate life—and so do you!

I have the ability to affect the outcome of my life.

Inspired Action:

  • Make a list of your positive qualities.
  • Choose one or two and begin to incorporate them into your life on a regular basis.
  • Which of these qualities will help you move from negative thinking to positive thinking?

Based on my new perspective:

  1. What nugget of inspiration will I carry into my day?
  2. What is one thing I am committed to changing?
  3. What are the action steps I will take to make the change?

 

 

Pressing the STOP button

Learning to create a pause between our thoughts and actions is a powerful tool to help us navigate life.  It is something that is always available to us that is simple, but at the same time profound.

We have all been there in that moment when we have had a negative reaction to something we have read, heard or experienced and have responded in a way we later regret. This connection between action and reaction happens to us in a matter of seconds and is recognized by the emotion it triggers in us.

Our brain labels these emotions based on the past experiences we have had in our past. Seeking to make meaning of this negative reaction, our mind compares it to other such experiences we have had and we feel it as anger, pain, hurt or a host of other emotions. This cause and effect scenario results in responding in ways that do not serve anyone.

Unless we make a change it can feel like we are stuck in a negative pattern. Creating a pause is to allow space between what happened and how we respond to it. This space that we give ourselves, allows us to stop and reflect how we want to be in the situation at hand, and that allows us to respond in a way that is healthy.

I know that this is easier to talk about than do since it is not our natural way to respond. However, it is one of the most important tools I teach my clients because it frees them from being at the mercy of negative thought patterns and allows them to have control over how they choose to respond.

BREAKING DOWN BIG IDEAS:

If you would like to learn how to push the STOP button and create space that allows a different response I will be doing a free 40 minute phone workshop on Tuesday, April 17 from 6:30 to 7:10 PM. Please respond to this email and I will send you the conference line information. Feel free to forward this on to friends who might want to register as well.

Moving Forward: What Do You Want?

Seems like this should be an easy question to answer right? Maybe not. My clients tell me this is one of the hardest question to explore and define. The initial answers we give are too vague and don’t paint a clear picture of what we want. Without that crystal clear picture it is almost impossible to create a path and we find ourselves going in circles wondering why we don’t get where we want to go. That is why this is such a crucial question to answer because when we are not clear about what we want our life becomes more difficult and stressful.

Whether you are wanting something tangible or you want to change a behavior or improve a relationship, the process remains the same. You must first define it as clearly as you can. Answer the who, what, where, when and why questions and then add action steps that will move you in that direction.

It is amazing to watch people move toward what they want with a clear vision and plan to get there. I hope you will take time to really explore what you want and dig deep to define it and move ahead with action steps. I’m here if you want to talk more.

Free Tele-class: Navigating Life with Ease 6:30 – 7:15 PM CT this Thursday 2/15/17 Reply to this email if you want to join us. 

I offer Pinpoint two 45 minute phone coaching sessions that can explore you explore what you want to change with a plan to get there. Email for more information. 

 

Seeing Your Own Light

” To the one who waits, all things reveal themselves, so long as you have the courage not to deny in the darkness what you have seen in the light.”  ~Barbara Brown Taylor

It was several years ago that I first came upon this quote. Although I had to read it several times to fully take in the meaning, I knew it spoke to the part in all of us that forgets we have a magnificent light within us, especially when life is hard.

There are times when we lose hope that something, anything, might change, or there is an improvement in our relationships or life circumstances. In fact, in the course of any given day, we face situations that we can’t control that can leave us feeling discouraged, waiting for the day to be over. I bet you know what I mean.

It is easy to acknowledge the light within us when things are going our way, not so much when life is hard. However, that is the most perfect time to go inside and acknowledge our light knowing that just because there is cloud cover right now, it in no way diminishes who you are!

Inspired Action: Think back to a difficult situation in your life and ask how it might have been different if during that hard time, you had remembered the light within you that guides your path. 

Navigating Life – “No Fee” Tele-class

Life can be hard and challenging and we can all benefit from learning new skills that can help us navigate life easier. That is why I am offering a “no fee” tele- class called, Navigating Life on February 15 at 6:30 – 7:15 CT time. Past participants tell me they came away with valuable insights. Email me here if you would like to attend and I will send you the call in information. Hope to see you in the class! 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Living Authentically…The Blessing Jar!

I think we would all agree with the idea that we are richer and more affluent than many in our world. However, sometimes in the struggles of daily living or when we have more dark days than light, we have trouble seeing that there is hope and light in the world. At times like this it is hard to connect to the blessings that we already have.

Brene Brown says it so well when she said, ” It seems that gratitude without practice may be a little like faith without works – it’s not alive.

Acknowledging what we are grateful for, or calling to mind the blessings in our life changes the lens that we use to view our life. It can help us move from struggle to ease and from dark into light.

A client of mine shared with me, and with permission I’m sharing with you, just how important it was for her to begin this practice. She said that it helps to call to mind each day the blessings she has received and helps her keep a positive spirit.

To make your own blessing jar take any container you have and label it “Blessings” and each day add your blessing for the day to the jar.

My hope is that each one of you reading this will find YOUR own way to call to mind how you have been blessed each day. I believe, doing so cultivates grace and hope in our lives. I’d love to hear from you, please leave me a comment!

Blessings to you,

Sandy

Everything You Need – You Already Have!

As you know, I love quotes and this one is hanging in my office. I believe this is what is possible for each and every one of us, if we allow it.

I remember that my grandmother Selma had high standards for herself and others and believed in me more than I believed in myself. One day in a conversation, I must have been particularity down on myself when she said to me:

I can’t be the only one who believes in you, you have to do your part too!

This was my first introduction into knowing that I had the ability to affect the outcome of my life and I could do it by changing my thinking and my attitude. I knew it was not about wishing things were different, but that no matter what came my way, and a lot did, I had what I needed inside me to navigate life and so do you!

Inspired Action:

  • Make a list of your positive qualities.
  • Choose one or two to begin to incorporate into your life on a regular basis.
  • Which of these qualities will help you move from negative thinking to positive thinking?

My story is a testament to navigating life and coming out better for it. You Can buy my book, Selmas’s Spirit – A Story of Love and Forgiveness, by clicking this link:

https://www.amazon.com/Selmas-Spirit-Story-Forgiveness-Journey/dp/153057689X

 

Inspired Action: Moving From Here To There!

Moving from desiring something in your life to change, to actually making that change, requires deliberate action steps. Being able to achieve what you want begins,with awareness of what is in the way, and then creating a path and a plan to get it.

A few weeks ago I had the opportunity to to do a presentation on motivation. I talked about the space between wanting something and actually being able get it. In this space between the wanting it and doing it, are all the things that get in the way of our success. Such as:

  • Low self-esteem
  • Lack of confidence
  • Not knowing how to get it
  • Fear of failure
  • Not enough time or energy
  • And anything else that you might name

Do any of these sound familiar? All too often, they stop people dead in their tracks unable to make head way.  Here is an action step you can take to begin:

  1. List one change that you would like to make.
  2. Make a list of the things that stand in your way.
  3. Put a star by one or two things that carry the most emotional charge.
  4. Look at the items with a star and ask yourself what you need to do or to know to be able to make a small change.
  5. Ask yourself how to best begin, who will support you and create a plan. Every change begins with doing one thing differently than before. The important thing is to start.
  6. We tend to focus on what we don’t have but I would encourage you to make a list of all the times you have met your goal through your action. It is important to recognize the positive things we have accomplished as well.

Hopefully this will begin to give you a starting point to help you identify the things that are in the way for you. We tend to repeat the same patterns over and over again, so when you make progress in one area you feel more in control of your life. This is an life enhancing gift you can give yourself.

Would you like to talk more? I offer a 45 minute conversation to help you move from here to there. I offer this as a way to help people achieve more of what they desire. Reply to this email to set up a time.

Blessings on your day!