What Really Matters
Over the last few months, I have been in a process of discernment about my life and my work. The question I have been sitting with is this:
in all aspects of my life, what really matters, what brings me joy and what brings me into the fullest expression of who I am?
I wish I could say I was exempt from this, but in the last 5 years I have had my share of very difficult life situations. As many of us do, I would have liked to pretend to have blinders on or struggle against it rather than to face what was in front of me. It took me a long time, but when I finally stopped fighting the circunstances of my life, I began to embrace a new idea; what if I did not have to fight it?
When difficult things happen, our first reaction is to fight back to defend or protect ourselves from what we perceive as a threat.
Without even noticing we are doing it, we end up staying in the fight until we are too tired to continue or we just can’t do it anymore. One day I just decided to stop the fight. I began to consider that the very things that were difficult were really here to help me. It seemed like a radical thought to lay down my guns when I nothing for sure. However, I learned doing so creates an opening in your life circumstances where we can begin to ask questions. And for me that question was, what really matters?
The truth is, we are all players in our own lives and we live it according to what we value and believe.
Once we know what this is, we can begin to check it against the things that we do and say. But because we are all human and get off our center, our words and actions are not always in alignment. Sometimes we let the opinions of others have more value than our own, or we let our own fear scare us away.
To find what really matters we have to begin the search beyond the usual answers.
We need to be able to challenge what we value and believe to see if it is based on our truth or someone else’s. What really matters you will not find outside of yourself but deep at your center. At your center is the place of heart or God within you. It is the place where who you were created to be meets the outside world. It is also the place of wisdom and if you listen you can begin to discern what really matters to you. Once you have discovered it act like the center point of the compass pointing the way to a more authentic life. Blessings in your journey!
Published July 12, 2015 in SW Media News / Savage Pacer