What Story You Are Telling Yourself?
I believe that the universe will always provide an amble opportunity to learn a lesson, often times more than once! I bet all of you know exactly what I’m talking about! It is our human nature and part of our history to relay information to ourselves, others and the greater world. Storytelling is a powerful way to pass on information that changes our perceptions in a positive or negative ways.
As I said, the universe always provides us with a way to learn something again and this week was no exception.
The lawn service came by to put on the fertilizer on our large lawn. I stunned to find that they were here and gone in less than 5 minutes! I was disappointed and the story I told myself is that I was not getting my monies worth, how dare they do such a terrible job and this was surely a scam. Not only that, I have used them for 3 years and wondered if it had always been like this.
When something pokes at me, I have learned to pay attention and pause before action. About 45 minutes later the same truck pulled up again and this time finished the job. In this space where I had thought the worst of this company they came back to finish the job. Had I acted on first impulse to call and complain I would have caused unneeded concern.
I was humbled, and learned again, not to let my thoughts run shotgun even for a little bit.
This was a small example and no was harm done; but the price is much higher when it involves people we love and care about. It is of utmost importance that we begin to pay close attention to the stories we tell about ourselves about others. The impact of jumping to conclusions about something that was said or done is risky business. Those assumptions have a negative impact that tears down the relationship rather than building it up.
What if we would express our feelings to the other person rather than making assumptions or holding on to hurt and anger? Scary…you bet it is, but this is our growing edge; to be brave enough and courageous enough to be able express our thoughts and feelings to another person. In essence, we have to dare to be vulnerable with those we care about. It is not about who was right and who was wrong, but it is an opportunity to listen to each other with the intention to understand that person a little better. When we can take the blame and judgment out of the mix, it creates an opportunity to grow the friendship based on mutual care and concern and infused with love and compassion. I have learned that we all want the same thing; to be loved, valued and cared about. How dare we let the stories that we make up influence the quality of our relationships! Blessings to you!
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